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Trainers are invited to write lessons, tips, and experiences with NVC.

Submitted by LaShelle Lowe-Charde, Oct, 2019

We here at Wise Heart are excited to offer practical skills for personal transformation and thriving relationships to people around the world. Already, we are reaching folks in Romania, India, Israel, Portugal, and numerous other countries around the world. In the last two years, we have been able to offer four new major venues for learning and transformation:

  1. The Wise Heart online community and membership program! We are excited...
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Submitted by LaShelle Lowe-Charde, Sep, 2019

Attraction to others arises for all sorts of reasons. In and of itself it is neither good nor bad. It is often pleasurable but doesn’t necessarily help with wise discernment. When it arises, it is up to you to engage in wise discernment about how you manage it. When you are clear that it is something you would like to set a boundary with, mindfulness is an essential skill.

For example, let’s imagine you are at work and a new co-worker comes around the corner. Something about this person is immediately attractive to you. Noticing that you find them attractive you have a choice. You...

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Submitted by LaShelle Lowe-Charde, Sep, 2019

When you think about screaming at someone in anger, you probably imagine a barrage of criticism and blame. If you value kindness, you likely don't want to scream at someone in this way and at the same time you know anger is a valid feeling and you want to express yourself and stand up for your needs.

While yelling and screaming isn’t pleasant for anyone and can have a painful impact on another’s nervous system, if this is something you find yourself doing, it is still better to share your experience responsibly in that raised voice, rather than make demands, blame, and criticize. It...

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What Are You Doing in Retirement?

Submitted by Sally Marie, Aug, 2019
By Bob Brown
From Retired Educator

In 2017, retired high school math teacher Bob Brown and his wife Elizabeth (also a retired teacher) discovered the Empathy Tent during an event in Los Angeles and found their calling in retirement. The Empathy Tent—a pop-up canopy set up in public spaces— encourages constructive dialogue among people with different views to de-escalate and connect. It was started by San Francisco Bay Area resident Edwin Rutsch, the founding director of the Center for Building a Culture of Empathy.

Submitted by LaShelle Lowe-Charde, Aug, 2019

Ever say something you think is innocuous, like: "I thought you were coming to dinner," and see the other person react as though you had just fired a missile of criticism? After the initial shock of seeing them react, you soon find yourself sucked into a vortex of defending and explaining.

When you say something the listener typically only hears 8% of the content of your words. Facial expression, body language, tone of voice, and what's going on for the receiver fill in the rest. This leaves ample space for miscommunication, confusion, and assumptions.

Given the complexity of...

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Disgust, Contempt and Self-Hate

Submitted by Sally Marie, Aug, 2019
By Sarah Peyton
From Empathy Brain

We take in the brains with which we are most closely connected, as if they were our own.

Abusive Relationships and Nonviolence

Submitted by Sally Marie, Aug, 2019
By Miki Kashtan
From The Fearless Heart

“If we could read the secret history of our enemies we should find in each man’s life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility.” — Longfellow

Submitted by LaShelle Lowe-Charde, Aug, 2019

The desire to invite more shared vulnerability within a relationship or group usually arises from a longing to meet needs for intimacy, mutuality, being seen and heard, empathy, or community. You might find yourself sharing your struggles with someone, but they don't share about themselves. Or perhaps you would simply like to cultivate more intimacy in a particular relationship through shared vulnerability.

Inviting another forward into shared vulnerability means creating a safe space in which what they share is met with attentiveness, curiosity, and compassion. This is more...

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NVC and the UN's Sustainability Development Goals

Submitted by Sally Marie, Jun, 2019
By Alan Seid

This was in the context of a larger event titled "Unlocking Your Emotions to Achieve the Sustainable Development Goals" — which brought together presenters from the fields of Mindfulness, Emotional Intelligence, and NVC.

Submitted by Alex Censor, May, 2019

A hopeful, though rare, and possibly good example of how in normal political exchanges it might be possible to both stay our of labeling and model how to distinguish between observations and personal judgements.

I found it interesting the others who shared Booker's goals and values seemed attached to wanting to label and even critisized Booker for not wanting to engage in labeling


Cory Booker 'less concerned' with calling Trump a racist
Mar 01, 2019, Simpsonville, S.C. — New Jersey Sen. Cory Booker responded Friday to critics who believe he...

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