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Create Mutuality Rather Than Keeping Score

Submitted by Sally Marie, Mar, 2021
By LaShelle Lowe-Charde
From Connection Gem

Have you ever felt confused about the difference between maintaining a sense of mutuality and keeping a score card about who did what for whom in your relationship?

When you are first learning Mindful Compassionate Dialogue (MCD), it is important to learn the five key elements of better communication: observations, thoughts, feelings, needs, and requests. Doing this decreases reactivity, supports self-responsibility, and provides clarity and connection. Unfortunately, learning a new set of skills can sometimes be hijacked by old habits like keeping score.

How to Stay Grounded in a Reactive Moment: Observing, Anchoring, and Reflecting

Submitted by Sally Marie, Feb, 2021
By LaShelle Lowe-Charde
From Connection Gem

The most important thing you can do in a reactive moment is to get just a little bit bigger than whatever is happening. To do this, name what you are experiencing by saying something to yourself like, "I feel reactive."  Naming what’s happening moves you from the position of experiencer to observer. If you can maintain your position as observer, you will be able to access other skills that you have for managing reactivity.

Submitted by Bryn Hazell, Feb, 2021

Earlier this month I posted an article called "Neighbor to Neighbor: One Person At a Time". This was what I considered a "Success" story of NVC creating connection. I am a member of the ORNCC Board of Directors, and we are inviting you to share a story that is a celebration of creating connection through the NVC process. In addition to celebrating these interactions, we are hoping these shared stories will encourage and inspire others. Do you have a story to share? Would you be willing to submit it to me so I can post it on our website and...

Submitted by Bryn Hazell, Feb, 2021

Every other month I offer an NVC Citizen Empathy evening when we share about politics and explore how to communicate and contribute more effectively. Many of us are trying to connect with neighbors, friends and family who have very different perspectives on politics. The following is an email I received from one of the participants after our post-January 6 meeting. I am sharing it because I find it inspiring. Perhaps you will too.

Good morning Bryn,
Every morning Dennis and I read from an inspiring book for 15 minutes then meditate for 15 minutes. Currently DJ is reading...


Dissolving Barriers to Love

Submitted by Sally Marie, Jan, 2021
By LaShelle Lowe-Charde
From Connection Gem

The ability to receive love often can be taken for granted, but if the title of this Connection Gem caught your attention, you know that it's not necessarily simple. Receiving love can be especially fraught with confusion and reactivity. Even the word “love” can trigger a variety of associations that aren’t necessarily life-serving. You might imagine that true love can never be found or is a magical experience that only the lucky few get to experience.

Understanding and Transforming Anger

Submitted by Sally Marie, Jan, 2021
By LaShelle Lowe-Charde
From Connection Gem

When I was about ten years old, I was having increasingly frequent storms of rage. On one such occasion, my father had a rare moment of lucidity and told me the story of how anger had ruined his life. This was far from a perfect transmission of wisdom, he couldn't name the life serving purpose of anger and I was a bit young for the horrifying details he shared. However, I could see how anger was starting to affect my own life and in that moment I made a vow to be free from the damaging effects of anger.

Submitted by Gary Baran, Jan, 2021

Hello, NVC enthusiast in Oregon and SW Washington,

The ORNCC Board would like your input to increase ORNCC value to our community in 2021.

We invite you to contribute ideas to help ORNCC fulfill its mission to share NVC in our region. We will be hosting 2 Brainstorming Sessions, via Zoom, in January and would love to have your input:

Session 1 - Saturday, January 23rd; 10 to 11:30 am

Session 2 - Tuesday, January 26; 7 to 8:30 pm

In 2020 ORNCC granted 7 scholarships to support trainers with Zoom subscriptions. In 2021 we...


How Nonviolent Communication Skills Help at Work

Submitted by Sally Marie, Dec, 2020
By Cleona Lira
From Medium

Hello, everyone! I am Cleona Lira, founder of Conscious Money — gain inner freedom & clarity with money and life.

Today I want to share one of the most precious teachings in my life — Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and how it helps me at work. Hopefully, this video will inspire you to learn more and gain some tools that you can apply to increase connection & empathy with clients as well as increase your productivity whilst making life more wonderful overall.

Nonviolent Communication and Climate Change

Submitted by Sally Marie, Dec, 2020
By Puddle Dancer Press
From Puddle Dancer Press

“Our survival as a species depends on our ability to recognize that our well-being and the well-being of others are in fact one and the same.”

Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD.

To be clear, we at PuddleDancer Press believe climate scientists when they say we must reverse the course of human-generated climate change or face devastating consequences as individuals, families, communities, and as a civilization.

Three Layers of Response to Horror

Submitted by Sally Marie, Dec, 2020
By LaShelle Lowe-Charde
From Connection Gem

Our world is filled with awe-inspiring beauty, sacredness, and love. And throughout its history there have been—and continue to be—experiences of shocking horror. Horror could be defined as a reaction to that which turns away from or rejects the preciousness and sacredness of life. Here in the United States, many have witnessed with horror the words and actions of certain government officials over the past four years. All around the globe we can identify horrors sparked by the smallest of moments and the most massive of systems. And we are called to respond. How do you respond?



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