Create Mutuality Rather Than Keeping Score

Author: 
LaShelle Lowe-Charde
Publication: 
Connection Gem

Have you ever felt confused about the difference between maintaining a sense of mutuality and keeping a score card about who did what for whom in your relationship?

When you are first learning Mindful Compassionate Dialogue (MCD), it is important to learn the five key elements of better communication: observations, thoughts, feelings, needs, and requests. Doing this decreases reactivity, supports self-responsibility, and provides clarity and connection. Unfortunately, learning a new set of skills can sometimes be hijacked by old habits like keeping score.

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