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Submitted by Sally Marie, Aug, 2019
From The Fearless Heart
“If we could read the secret history of our enemies we should find in each man’s life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility.” — Longfellow
Submitted by LaShelle Lowe-Charde, Aug, 2019
The desire to invite more shared vulnerability within a relationship or group usually arises from a longing to meet needs for intimacy, mutuality, being seen and heard, empathy, or community. You might find yourself sharing your struggles with someone, but they don't share about themselves. Or perhaps you would simply like to cultivate more intimacy in a particular relationship through shared vulnerability.
Inviting another forward into shared vulnerability means creating a safe space in which what they share is met with attentiveness, curiosity, and compassion. This is more...
more... Submitted by Sally Marie, Jun, 2019
This was in the context of a larger event titled "Unlocking Your Emotions to Achieve the Sustainable Development Goals" — which brought together presenters from the fields of Mindfulness, Emotional Intelligence, and NVC.
Submitted by Alex Censor, May, 2019
A hopeful, though rare, and possibly good example of how in normal political exchanges it might be possible to both stay our of labeling and model how to distinguish between observations and personal judgements.
I found it interesting the others who shared Booker's goals and values seemed attached to wanting to label and even critisized Booker for not wanting to engage in labeling
Cory Booker 'less concerned' with calling Trump a racist
Mar 01, 2019, Simpsonville, S.C. — New Jersey Sen. Cory Booker responded Friday to critics who believe he...
Submitted by Sally Marie, May, 2019
From NVC Nextgen
“The Zero Step: What we do before we open our mouths influences what happens next!
“Know what you want before you open your mouth.” -Marshall Rosenberg, developer of Nonviolent Communication
Submitted by Gary Baran, Mar, 2019
10 Things We Can Do to Contribute to Internal, Interpersonal, and Organizational Peace
- Spend some time each day quietly reflecting on how we would like to relate to ourselves and others.
- Remember that all human beings have the same needs.
- Check our intention to see if we are as interested in others getting their needs met as our own.
- When asking someone to do something, check first to see if we are making a request or a demand.
- Instead of saying what we DON'T want someone to do, say what we DO want the person to do.
- Instead of...
Submitted by Sarah Peyton, Mar, 2019
I have been sitting here for 20 minutes, too ashamed of my own memories to even begin to write. It’s easy enough to write about having been bullied. In first grade, every day while waiting for the bus after school, a sixth grade girl would gather her friends around me in a circle so that the playground attendant couldn’t see what was happening, and she would punch me once, viciously, in the solar plexus. Then they would all dissipate and I would be left in pain, already dreading the next day. And I would try not to cause any trouble about it all, and be nice to that girl, because she was...
more... Submitted by Sally Marie, Feb, 2019
From Eugene photographer Gina Easley:
This just blew my mind. The Sun magazine (March 2019 issue) published my photo of a man sitting at the Empathy Tent (which can be found at our Saturday outdoor market here in Eugene). At the time I took the photo I didn’t get his name, and didn't know the name of the group that runs the tent, so I've been hoping to figure out a way to find him to give him a copy of the magazine. Yesterday one of the Sun readers sent me an email inquiring about the photo and mentioned that there is a stuffed giraffe next to the man in the photo and that the...
more... Submitted by Bob Wentworth, Feb, 2019
In graduate school, I became an expert on lasers, devices that produce intense beams of exceptionally pure light. So, it's only natural that I sometimes use lasers as metaphors for how our minds work. I find the metaphor useful in understanding why some of us suffer as much as we do, and in charting a course towards more delightful ways of being.
To make a laser, you take a transparent substance that has been engineered to amplify light, and you put mirrors around it. A material that can amplify light will also spontaneously produce small amounts of light. When a tiny bit of light...
more... Submitted by LaShelle Lowe-Charde, Jan, 2019
You know arguing is painful and doesn’t go anywhere, but you can’t stop yourself. You hear your own tense voice pushing your view and negating the other person’s view. You repeat yourself while getting louder, knowing all the while that it’s not helping. Afterwards, you feel hurt and exasperated. You long for a way through that is easy and connected.
Mostly, arguments like these arise and repeat because neither you nor the other person trust that needs will be heard and honored. Without this trust, you hold tightly to your opinion about how things should go. You think you have the...
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