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Family, Purpose, Land

Submitted by Sally Marie, May, 2021
By Miki Kashtan

Going to Israel, where I am from, to be with my sister Arnina on her 70th birthday wasn’t an easy decision. These are not simple times for travel. Being in Israel, which I left because I didn’t want to have certain things be done in my name, has only become more difficult over the last number of years. And, based on previous visits, I anticipated being challenged to stay both focused on purpose and open to life.

Answer the Bell

Submitted by Sally Marie, May, 2021
By Tim Buckley
From PuddleDancer Press

There are some days I sit in front of my desk for six hours without once standing up and stretching. Likewise, I will go for hours without taking a drink of water from a glass full sitting right beside me. One of my phone apps is a “mindfulness” prompt, a bell that rings randomly throughout the day, a reminder to stop everything, to breathe, to clear my mind of thoughts, and to recenter my energy. I have that app turned off. Even though I know about the value of short pauses and mindfulness, I ignore that practice. Why?

NVC Rising Global Festival

Submitted by Sally Marie, May, 2021

NVC Rising Global Festival May 28th through May 31st

JOIN us as we gather new and old friends to dive deep into the learning of Nonviolent Communication with a variety of trainers from around the globe, continuing to build an inclusive learning community for mutual support and in depth practice of this path.

Book Sale through PuddleDancer Press

Submitted by Sally Marie, May, 2021
  • 50% OFF both full Retail and eBooks Price
    • Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life
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    • Nonviolent Communication Companion Workbook

Create Mutuality Rather Than Keeping Score

Submitted by Sally Marie, Mar, 2021
By LaShelle Lowe-Charde
From Connection Gem

Have you ever felt confused about the difference between maintaining a sense of mutuality and keeping a score card about who did what for whom in your relationship?

When you are first learning Mindful Compassionate Dialogue (MCD), it is important to learn the five key elements of better communication: observations, thoughts, feelings, needs, and requests. Doing this decreases reactivity, supports self-responsibility, and provides clarity and connection. Unfortunately, learning a new set of skills can sometimes be hijacked by old habits like keeping score.

How to Stay Grounded in a Reactive Moment: Observing, Anchoring, and Reflecting

Submitted by Sally Marie, Feb, 2021
By LaShelle Lowe-Charde
From Connection Gem

The most important thing you can do in a reactive moment is to get just a little bit bigger than whatever is happening. To do this, name what you are experiencing by saying something to yourself like, "I feel reactive."  Naming what’s happening moves you from the position of experiencer to observer. If you can maintain your position as observer, you will be able to access other skills that you have for managing reactivity.

Submitted by Bryn Hazell, Feb, 2021

Earlier this month I posted an article called "Neighbor to Neighbor: One Person At a Time". This was what I considered a "Success" story of NVC creating connection. I am a member of the ORNCC Board of Directors, and we are inviting you to share a story that is a celebration of creating connection through the NVC process. In addition to celebrating these interactions, we are hoping these shared stories will encourage and inspire others. Do you have a story to share? Would you be willing to submit it to me so I can post it on our website and...

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Submitted by Bryn Hazell, Feb, 2021

Every other month I offer an NVC Citizen Empathy evening when we share about politics and explore how to communicate and contribute more effectively. Many of us are trying to connect with neighbors, friends and family who have very different perspectives on politics. The following is an email I received from one of the participants after our post-January 6 meeting. I am sharing it because I find it inspiring. Perhaps you will too.

Good morning Bryn,
Every morning Dennis and I read from an inspiring book for 15 minutes then meditate for 15 minutes. Currently DJ is reading...

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Dissolving Barriers to Love

Submitted by Sally Marie, Jan, 2021
By LaShelle Lowe-Charde
From Connection Gem

The ability to receive love often can be taken for granted, but if the title of this Connection Gem caught your attention, you know that it's not necessarily simple. Receiving love can be especially fraught with confusion and reactivity. Even the word “love” can trigger a variety of associations that aren’t necessarily life-serving. You might imagine that true love can never be found or is a magical experience that only the lucky few get to experience.

Understanding and Transforming Anger

Submitted by Sally Marie, Jan, 2021
By LaShelle Lowe-Charde
From Connection Gem

When I was about ten years old, I was having increasingly frequent storms of rage. On one such occasion, my father had a rare moment of lucidity and told me the story of how anger had ruined his life. This was far from a perfect transmission of wisdom, he couldn't name the life serving purpose of anger and I was a bit young for the horrifying details he shared. However, I could see how anger was starting to affect my own life and in that moment I made a vow to be free from the damaging effects of anger.

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