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Submitted by Sally Marie, Aug, 2018

By Robin Abcarian of the LA Times
Aug 03, 2018

About halfway through the three-hour siege at Trader Joe’s in Silver Lake, the wounded gunman, Gene Atkins, looked at one of his hostages, MaryLinda Moss, and told her it was all over for him. “I just shot at a cop,” he said.

Moss, a 55-year-old artist who exudes calm, feared a suicidal gunman could spark a bloodbath. Through a series of disastrous decisions by Atkins, dozens of strangers had ended up at the grocery store...

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Submitted by Sally Marie, Aug, 2018

Complicating the Narratives

What if journalists covered controversial issues differently—based on how humans actually behave when they are polarized and suspicious?

By Amanda Ripley / Solutions Journalism Network

Last summer, 60 Minutes brought 14 people—half Republicans, half Democrats—to a converted power plant in downtown Grand Rapids, MI. The goal was to encourage Americans to talk—and listen—to those with whom they disagree. Oprah Winfrey led the conversation, her debut as a 60 Minutes Special Correspondent—and her return to TV...

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Submitted by LaShelle Lowe-Charde, Jul, 2018

True intimacy, as defined in the frame work of Mindful Compassionate Dialogue, lives in a container of acceptance, mutual care, mutual respect, and healthy differentiation. You can "feel close" to someone through a rush of love chemicals, enmeshment, or a trauma bond, but these kinds of experiences typically involve meeting some needs at the cost of many others and are not sustainable over time.

Intimacy is something that grows and deepens over time, when each person is able to experience and trust a sense of acceptance, mutual care, and mutual respect. In this case, sharing one's...

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Submitted by Sally Marie, Jun, 2018

Rumi "Teach Compassion for a peaceful world"

PRWeb, February 16, 2014.
Genesis Young and Sulara James have created a petition to teach Non-Violent Communication in Schools which they believe will help stop violence and create a more peaceful society.

Over 2500 people are supporting this ground breaking petition. It is heartbreaking and gut wrenching to turn on the news and hear about yet another school shooting. It is unacceptable to have children killing each other in school or to have anyone resorting to gun violence in answer to their pain. There must be a change in...

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Submitted by Sally Marie, Jun, 2018

By Psyched in San Francisco | Appeared in HuffPost
Psychotherapists, writers, activists and big-hearted humans. psychedinsanfrancisco.com

“Us vs. Them” is the poison this American culture is pumping out and ingesting on every level of our society and we are all ill from it. The longing to belong is wired into our cells, yet on multiple levels of our society we actively leave people out. By denying some citizens basic safety and care and actively persecuting others, we foster...

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Submitted by Sally Marie, Jun, 2018

By Oren Jay Sofer, February 24, 2018

[Please note: The views and opinions expressed in each post are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views and opinions of BayNVC as a whole.]

I was originally going to share with you a piece I’ve published here entitled the Skill of Love, about our beautiful capacity as humans to develop the qualities of care and good will. Given Valentines Day’s heart-rending school...

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Submitted by LaShelle Lowe-Charde, May, 2018

One of the most empowering aspects of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is discovering that you have needs and learning how to make requests regarding them. Unfortunately, a new found enthusiasm to say what is true for you can sometimes overshadow the purpose of NVC. When the purpose of NVC is lost, your "Honest Expression" can slide into a platform for expressing judgments and reactivity.

The purpose of NVC is to create a quality of connection in which there is a natural giving from the heart. To cultivate this quality of connection both you and the other person are working to be...

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Submitted by LaShelle Lowe-Charde, May, 2018

When a friend begins to angrily talk about someone else, you likely feel torn. On the one hand, you know that under the anger, your friend is feeling some version of hurt, scared, and/or sad and so you want to offer support. On the other hand, your own integrity and care for others comes up when you hear harsh judgments. You don't want your willingness to listen to be construed as agreeing with judgments of others or the situation and you don't want encourage violent speech.

The most helpful place to start is with self-connection. Ask yourself if you have the resources to be a...

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Submitted by Bryn Hazell, May, 2018

Although it certainly is helpful when the person I am communicating with has some Compassionate (Nonviolent) Communication skills, I find that I can usually connect with someone by what I call “translating” what they are saying to Nonviolent Communication (NVC). Translating means I guess their feelings and needs. If my guess isn’t accurate, the person will let me know, and then I can connect with whatever feelings and needs they are experiencing.

For example:

Them: “She’s impossible to talk to. Everything’s a fight with her.”
Me: “Frustrating?”
Them: “Tiring!”...

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Submitted by Sarah Peyton, Apr, 2018

I grew up in the interior of Alaska. The colors there are beautiful and strange: dusky black-teal spruce trees, brilliant orange and pink sunrise and -set, white snow, and blue-black-gray shadows from the moon. I know the forest floor there, the bright red berries, the different mosses and lichens, the peeling birch bark and bursting aspen, the dirty-cream of puffball mushrooms, the curling fuschia of fireweed and then their white seedy fluff. I know what it feels like to step on the peat, to dig in red-brown clay, to sink into the powder of the snow up to my calves. It is the landscape of...

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