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Submitted by LaShelle Lowe-Charde, Apr, 2017

Meeting someone's need to be heard usually means going beyond just hearing the content of what is said. You know this and you recognize times when you have a sense of really being heard. But when it comes asking someone to hear you, you may struggle with a clear request.

When someone "gets you", a lot is happening all at once. They let their heart be affected by you. They allow themselves to feel their own caring, grief, joy, or fear while all the while giving you their full attention.

Attending to you in this way it's almost as if they can follow your perception of something...

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Submitted by Bryn Hazell, Apr, 2017

At a recent practice group the metaphor of a tennis court came up during an exploration of someone’s feelings and needs about a particular relationship. We drew a picture of a tennis court on our white board and used it to get clarity about which side of the court is ours to play in a relationship.

It brought me back to when I was first learning NVC. The workshop facilitator asked me about my needs in a situation. I said something like, “I just want to understand why he’s angry and says such nasty things to me.” And the facilitator tried again, “and when that happens, what needs do...

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Submitted by Gary Baran, Mar, 2017

I believe that many people were initially drawn to NVC because of the hope it offered for improved relationships with family and friends, and that most have found it helped improve those personal relationships, including the relationship with themselves. Some have been able to apply it in their workplaces, improving personal relationships with co-workers, employees or employers. But my impression is that relatively few have explored how NVC might be applied to contribute to far more complex systemic social change.

If I become aware that some system—for example the retributive...

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Submitted by Sarah Peyton, Mar, 2017

Long ago, when I was 19 years old, I was in my college cafeteria, going through the buffet line with my tray. A young man in my German class, a person that I had admired, asked if he could speak with me for a moment. My heart leapt. Now maybe the experience of making friends, maybe even of having a boyfriend, would begin. I liked him. Maybe he liked me.

I took my tray to his table, anticipating good things. Instead, the young man told me that I was difficult to have in class, that I was moving too fast, taking too much of the teacher’s attention, and hindering the rest of the class...

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Submitted by Sally Marie, Feb, 2017

Empathy As Resistance: Adversaries Shouldn't See Trump As A Monster by Steven Wineman

“What I’m saying is this is fresh,” quipped Stephen Colbert after Donald Trump's first solo press conference as president. “It must be fresh because you can smell it ... This press conference — it's still steaming. You can warm your hands over this pile.”

Colbert is hardly alone in his impulse to denigrate Trump. We are...

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Submitted by LaShelle Lowe-Charde, Feb, 2017

There are many ways to make the world a better place and you likely have one or two favorites. For your favorite cause you have likely researched the topic, attended groups or workshops, and done your best to live by the tenets of that cause.

Perhaps the more you learn, the more you see how extensive the problem is and how important change is if we are to avoid disaster. You may feel angry, frightened, grief stricken, and desperate wanting to make the world safe and healthy. Hopefully you receive empathy for your pain around the situation and seek the wisdom of others about what...

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Submitted by Gary Baran, Feb, 2017

On the second anniversary of the death of Marshall Rosenberg I find myself recalling times I spent with him and considering the enormous and ongoing impact our relationship has had on my life. I’ve also been speculating about how he might have viewed what’s been happening lately in our country and throughout the world, and what I and others can do to insure his legacy.

I worked closely with Marshall during the years I was the executive director of the Center for Nonviolent Communication (1998-2006). I am deeply grateful both for the many hours I spent with him in workshops and also...

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Submitted by Bryn Hazell, Dec, 2016

We are excited and inspired thinking of the thousands of people throughout Oregon and Southwestern Washington sharing, learning and practicing Compassionate / Nonviolent Communication -- all of us seeking a world where everyone's needs matter and are met!

In 2017 we will reach out to all of you to see if we can get a "census" that will give us an idea of just how many people are being touched by NVC through practice groups, classes, workshops, presentations and other forms. More information will be in our upcoming newsletters. We hope you will be willing to collaborate.

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Submitted by Bryn Hazell, Dec, 2016

Are you enjoying your holiday season?

Are you meeting the needs that you would like to meet?

Some folks find this time of year more overwhelming than "merry," so here's a reminder to focus on the needs you would like to meet and make requests of yourself or others to meet those needs.

Would you like more ease? You could choose to ease up on yourself and have a simpler menu, ask for help and take "ease" breaks during your day.

Would you like more connection? How about finding 5 or 10 minutes to call someone you want to connect with and let them know how much you...

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Submitted by Sally Marie, Nov, 2016

Warm greetings,

It has been almost a year now that our new ORNCC website has been up and running, and we are excited about how it looks and how we are now better able to publicize offerings and connect folks in the NVC community in Oregon and Southwest Washington. We have invested hundreds of hours and about $5,000 in the new website, and we want to make sure our valuable resources are used as effectively as possible.

We hold the vision of a vibrant NVC community that supports and encourages NVC practice and teaching throughout our area. This means letting newcomers and...

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