Trainers are invited to write lessons, tips, and experiences with NVC.
I’d like to share something that might help illuminate one aspect of some differences in views that I’ve been sensing in the NVC network. I have hope that this might also contribute to people’s journeys of learning and practicing NVC. This topic is important to me because I see growing our skills around engaging with Interdependence as what offers hope for a more peaceful world.
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I have an idea that there are several orientations to relating to self and others which are relevant as people learn NVC and deepen their practice:
- Enmeshment - In...
In these times of global change, you might find your mind lost in worry more than ever. Letting worry take over inhibits joy, health, and wise, compassionate action. It’s important to be able to work with it effectively so that you can contribute to love and well-being for yourself and others.
What is the connection between Nonviolent Communication and Politics?
Is there room in politics for Nonviolent Communication (NVC)?
Does Nonviolent Communication have a specific political agenda?
NVC aims for a world in which everybody’s needs are met and conflicts are resolved peacefully.
While my time here has now come to an end, I want you to know that in the last days and hours of my life you inspired me. You filled me with hope about the next chapter of the great American story when you used your power to make a difference in our society. Millions of people motivated simply by human compassion laid down the burdens of division. Around the country and the world you set aside race, class, age, language and nationality to demand respect for human dignity.
June 19, 2020 (“Juneteenth”)
One of my former NVC students at the Oregon State Penitentiary was transferred to another prison out of state many years ago, and we have kept in touch by mail from time to time. I’ll call him Joe, to protect his anonymity. He wrote to me recently, after the start of the COVID-19 pandemic and the George Floyd murder, and I was so struck by his words, I want to share them with you. Joe has given me permission to do so, and I have only edited lightly for clarity. As a bit of background: Joe has been in prison since he was 15 years old, and he just turned...more...
Even in the midst of all that is moving in the world, three experiences left me particularly shaken today. Each gave clarity about what NVC can offer in the midst of these times, and where we need to be vigilant. Here are the three events that shaped my day.
I was delighted to be the recipient of a Zoom-subsidizing grant from ORNCC for my pandemic-time online practice group. Thank you, ORNCC Board!
We have met on Friday afternoons, 2:00 to 3:30, since the start of May. We’ve grown to 11 of us, and average four to six at each meeting. Thanks to the magic of tech, we beam in from Toronto to Santa Barbara, Michigan to Portland, as well as Corvallis and Salem. We start with a Quieting and a reading, and then a brief, lightly guided check-in. Anyone wanting some time for an empathy circle can then ask for it. I coach us along the way, and...more...
PuddleDancer Press (PDP) published the first edition of Marshall Rosenberg’s book, Nonviolent Communication, in 1999 and since then has published many more books dealing with Nonviolent Communication. PDP has also donated many NVC books for use in prisons and for people who could not otherwise afford them. PDP is, in my view, one of the most effective agents for spreading NVC and I am deeply grateful for what it offers.
PDP publishes a free monthly e-newsletter. Material from the current newsletter seems to me to be especially relevant at this time. It includes an essay addressing...more...
Dear Friends of NVC,
From its inception the Oregon Network for Compassionate Communication (ORNCC) has strived to work in tandem with the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC), the international organization Marshall Rosenberg founded in 1984. Having both an international as well as local organizations such as ORNCC has helped draw people to the process we have found so valuable. For many years CNVC has been largely dependent for financial viability on income from International Intensive Trainings (IITs), along with contributions by CNVC Certified Trainers and others in the...more...
For many, staying at home during this time can be disorienting. It can be more difficult to find a sense of purpose without feedback from coworkers and customers. Knowing how and where to direct your energy can be hard too. Without a consistent schedule, every moment means making a choice. Given that we are greatly supported and regulated by routine and community, finding your own rhythm can be challenging. You still have responsibilities, but how you go about them is completely by your design.