You value conscious compassionate relationships yet find yourself getting caught in your own reactive patterns and those of others. You want freedom and healing around past pain that comes up and gets projected onto the present. You would like to unhook yourself and stand up for for what you value and need as well as be present for others. Here's a little about how I approach reactivity: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aJSDohYP7Ds
Is this for you?
From your practice you know that reactivity interferes with your ability to access the skills you have been practicing. You recognize that turning towards these reactive patterns requires vulnerability and learning to be present with uncomfortable feelings. You trust that the group structure I offer and your own resources will allow you to do some of this difficult work in our eight week series.
What's it all about?
In this eight week class you will be introduced to a framework for working with reactivity. You will have the opportunity practice with common forms of reactivity you find in yourself and others; specifically these are defensiveness, anger, self-blame, and shut down. You will practice identifying the needs underneath reactivity. You will also have the opportunity to learn and practice requests and/or strategies to meet those needs and begin to dissolve the associated reactive patterns.
This course incorporates principles, exercises, and content from Hakomi (also known as body-centered therapy) mindfulness (primarily from the vipassana tradition), along with the consciousness, skills, and framework of Compassionate Communication.
You will study the reactivity through experiential exercises and skills practice to build resources that will help you can stay grounded in the midst of reactivity.
What to expect?
Each class will begin with mindfulness, a resourcing exercise, and skills practice.
You will work in pairs and small groups in structured experiential exercises. Exercises can be modifed to give you more or less challenge depending on your learning edge. You may also engage in role plays. There will be an opportunity for debrief and questions after each exercise.
The course includes a detailed handout and you will be asked to read a section of your handout before each class. It's important to have your handout with you for every class.
A video and audio recording will be available for review after each class. The video recording will not show the participants.
Need more information before deciding whether or not to join? Give me a call (503-544-7583) or send me an email with your questions or concerns. lashellelowecharde@gmail.com
CANCELLATION POLICY: to meet needs for inclusion, security, and predictability refunds are only given if requested 72 hours before the start of the course, so please discern carefully.
Online courses can be attended live or via receiving the recordings & materials. An eight week course is offered once every quarter. Class size is limited to 14 live participants. Please indicate your preference on registration in the "hopes for the course" section.
Video Conferencing Sessions are conducted using Zoom (you can download the app for free or simply click the meeting invite and it will download for you).
Zoom minimum speed requirements are: 600kbps/1.2Mbps (up/down) for HQ video. For gallery view: 1.5Mbps/1.5Mbps (up/down). You can find free sites on the internet that will measure your speeds. It is recommended that you don't use your internet provider for this measurement. Router settings may impact speeds and can often be adjusted to increase speed.
LaShelle Lowe-Chardé is passionate about helping people express their deepest values in their relationships and creating clarity and connection with self and others.
She began her professional career with a master’s degree in school psychology. In addition to nine years in public schools, she spent several years facilitating group healing work for adolescent youth labeled “at-risk”. During that same time she led leadership and teamwork trainings for businesses and organizations around Portland, Oregon.
Along the way she found Compassionate/Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and began training with Marshall Rosenberg and other internationally known NVC trainers. She immediately knew that Compassionate Communication was the missing piece. It offers a deep and broad yet simple understanding of human nature along with a concrete set of tools to help us act and live from a place of clarity and compassion. For LaShelle, Compassionate Communication is the hands and feet of spirituality. In 2006, she was certified as a NVC trainer.
In addition to certification in Nonviolent Communication, she has completed a three year training in Hakomi - Body Centered Therapy and introductory trainings in Emotionally Focused Therapy and with the Gottman Institute.
In 2004, she founded her business, Wise Heart (www.wiseheartpdx.org). Since that time she has served as a trainer, private coach, and mentor for the learning and practice of Compassionate Communication and mindfulness. LaShelle teaches locally as well as through video conferencing online. She has offerings for couples, women, and the general public in addition to trainings for local nonprofit organizations. Her offerings focus on combining NVC with mindfulness and a subtle understanding of reactivity and relationship skills.