Looking for more authentic connection with yourself and others?
Looking for a place where you can Be and bring everything you are, and be held with deep compassion and respect?
Longing for more understanding, awareness, and authentic choice in your life?
Having trouble “doing NVC” (or, being at choice) when you’re upset? (Like the rest of us humans?)
Presence Practice offers a profoundly safe place where you can connect with yourself and develop the “presence muscles” you need to be able to witness and hold your own and others’ discomfort, distress, and reactivity with compassion, awareness, and response-ability — the foundations of authentic choice.
This Introduction to Presence Practice is perfect for anyone with a basic sense of personal empowerment who’s longing to develop a greater capacity for:
• authentic connection with self, Life, and others
• mindfulness (awareness), presence, self-management, and choice
• calming our own or others' upset brains
• “turning towards” difficult emotions; receiving their revitalizing gifts; and releasing old, stuck pain and patterns from the past
• genuinely meeting needs (your own and others’) in a way that supports everyone’s thriving
• remaining at peace in the midst of even the most challenging circumstances (whether internal or external)
We use a variety of practices (guided by participants’ requests) including basic NVC (*resonant* empathy, including guessing feelings and needs), reflection, somatic expression, Compassionate Noticing, role-playing, the Inner Path, Inner Parts work, Coherence Integrative Work, the Completion Process, and others.
We are a deeply authentic, transparent community where you can Be and bring everything you are and receive compassionate support for regaining your authentic power and choice.
Come join us. (And, welcome home.)
Please register at www.thrivinglifenvc.org/presence-practice (includes important preparation questions and background information). Location details are provided with your registration confirmation.
I look forward to having you with us!
$45 contribution for this event. This is both to cover our expenses and to fuel the time and energy we put into creating, developing, and offering these Introductions. Please message us ahead of time if the cost seems prohibitive for you; we want everyone who wants to come, to be able to participate.
Presence Practice is a relatively advanced practice that does require some specific skills. We've created these prerequisites to provide some guidelines for discerning whether this practice will be a good "fit" for you at this time. (If it's not, we recommend Compassionate Noticing, our Adventures in Thriving meetup (www.meetup.com/adventures-in-thriving), our Healthy Boundaries class, or other NVC practice groups or classes.
PREREQUISITES - Essential Personal Readiness and Ongoing Commitments:
• A basic sense of personal empowerment and responsibility for our own well-being (please note, this is not a therapy group)
• A basic capacity and a demonstrated willingness to shift from blaming (self or others) and being “caught up in our stories” to looking within* for the source of our own upsets/reactivity
• A lived, ongoing commitment to (developing) a daily presence/awareness/mindfulness/noticing practice that moves us away from unconscious, automatic, or habitual disempowered responses, and towards noticing and experiencing present-moment body sensations, feelings, thoughts, and impulses, and responding to those with
self-responsibility/empowerment and choice (this practice is called Compassionate Noticing)
• A lived, ongoing commitment to deepening understanding and practice of the basic NVC distinctions: feelings vs. thoughts, needs vs. strategies, observations vs. story (“evaluations”), and a willingness to notice and practice these distinctions. Good resources for review and study include reading this brief Intro to NVC and watching the short, FREE Video Intro to NVC”, and watching the “Broken Toe” video (on this page and on the home page), as well as Marshall’s Book, “NVC: A Language of Life.”
* The “issue” may be arising from something outside of us that is of genuine concern, but our experience has shown that our reactivity/upset and most of our “unbearable” pain arises from something within us that we’re not yet fully connected to … including unresolved painful experiences from our past. For more information watch my “Broken Toe” video (above), and click here.
(CNVC Certification Candidate)
I first encountered Compassionate/Nonviolent Communication (NVC) around the year 2000.
Learning that feelings were pointing to needs met/unmet was like a lightning bolt for me; it was the missing piece that finally made everything make sense. Seeing myself, Life, and others through the lens of NVC, I was finally able to develop a compassionate, friendly relationship with my shame, and come to feel at home with my own humanity.
In recent years I've been thrilled again by the latest findings from Interpersonal Neurobiology and Attachment Theory. When these are integrated with NVC, we finally understand:
* why we can't "do NVC" when we're upset
* what "stress" really is, and why it's so dangerous for our health and relationships
* why compassionate, authentic, resonant community is essential for our well-being
* what really, truly dissolves our automatic reactions and restores authentic choice
* reliable pathways to enjoying more calm, peace, and genuinely happiness
Thriving Life principles, distinctions, tools, and practices create the sense of belonging, being fully and authentically gotten and welcomed (from what is most magnificent to us, to our warts and farts and ugly parts, and everything in between), attunement, security-beyond-circumstances, and *thriving* that I believe is our birthright.
I hope you'll come share the journey and the joy of real belonging with our Thriving Life NVC community.
Blessings on us all,