This workshop is for couples who value authenticity, compassion, and mindfulness in communication. Join us whether you are new to Mindful Compassionate Dialogue or would just like to practice and stay grounded in the basics. To get a sense of how and what I teach, check out my you tube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/user/LaShellenvc
Is this you?
Finding the words to say how you feel and what's important to you can be difficult. You would like to express yourself in a way your partner can hear you without defensiveness and misunderstandings. You would like to listen to your partner in the same way.
Saying what's really true for you, being heard, and hearing your partner deeply is one of the most satisfying aspects of relationships. Learning these skills doesn't just help with conflict, it also helps to build a solid foundation for your relationship.
This workshop is a fit for any couple that has enough connection to share vulnerably and work collaboratively in learning and practicing new skills.
What's it all about?
You will spend the day learning and practicing with your partner in structured experiential exercises. Many of these exercises incorporate mindfulness. You will learn using examples that you choose from your own life. We will debrief the exercises in the whole group. You can participate in the debrief by sharing or by listening silently. You will not be asked to reveal details of your relationship with the group. Partners are asked to only speak for themselves, not sharing any details about their partner without in the moment expressed permission.
The trainer and three assistants will be available during exercises to help you get the most from your experience and clarify the exercises as needed.
You will get to learn and practice with the following:
Misunderstandings - begin to identify the language that interferes with connected and clear communication.
Appreciation - Learning to give and receive appreciation lays a foundation for a vibrant relationship and the ability to meet challenges with skill and grace.
Self-Empathy & Reactivity - learn to name and interrupt reactivity before it takes over and create an internal dialogue of compassion for yourself.
Honesty and asking for what you want: Express your feelings, needs, and requests in a way your partner can receive more easily.
Empathy - learn to listen for the truth of what your partner is saying regardless of the words they use.
Needs Based Negotiation - learn what it means to really stay focused on all needs present and how this can support creativity and flexibility.
CANCELLATION POLICY: to meet needs for inclusion, security, and predictability refunds are only given if requested 72 hours before the start of the course, so please discern carefully.
LaShelle Lowe-Chardé is passionate about helping people express their deepest values in their relationships and creating clarity and connection with self and others.
She began her professional career with a master’s degree in school psychology. In addition to nine years in public schools, she spent several years facilitating group healing work for adolescent youth labeled “at-risk”. During that same time she led leadership and teamwork trainings for businesses and organizations around Portland, Oregon.
Along the way she found Compassionate/Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and began training with Marshall Rosenberg and other internationally known NVC trainers. She immediately knew that Compassionate Communication was the missing piece. It offers a deep and broad yet simple understanding of human nature along with a concrete set of tools to help us act and live from a place of clarity and compassion. For LaShelle, Compassionate Communication is the hands and feet of spirituality. In 2006, she was certified as a NVC trainer.
In addition to certification in Nonviolent Communication, she has completed a three year training in Hakomi - Body Centered Therapy and introductory trainings in Emotionally Focused Therapy and with the Gottman Institute.
In 2004, she founded her business, Wise Heart (www.wiseheartpdx.org). Since that time she has served as a trainer, private coach, and mentor for the learning and practice of Compassionate Communication and mindfulness. LaShelle teaches locally as well as through video conferencing online. She has offerings for couples, women, and the general public in addition to trainings for local nonprofit organizations. Her offerings focus on combining NVC with mindfulness and a subtle understanding of reactivity and relationship skills.