Is this you?
You love each other and are dedicated to creating a honest and kind relationship. It’s frustrating when you get caught up in old patterns. You find yourself reacting with anger, defensiveness, or withdrawl more often than you would like. You have learned enough to know that something else is possible in your communication and relationship. Knowing this and holding the intention to interact differently are a supportive beginning to making a change. However, to support a lasting change, consistent practice and support from others are crucial ingredients.
What to Expect
In this series you’ll have the opportunity to get the support and practice you need. You will learn new skills in handling reactivity, engaging in self-empathy, and building trust with your partner. You and your partner will also be developing new habits in dialogue that create understanding and prevent reactivity from taking over.
For most exercises in the series you will be working exclusively with your partner. You will not need to share any details of your relationship with the group. There will be time in the whole group for debrief and questions at the end of each exercise. While information will be presented, the majority of your time will be spent reflecting, learning, and practicing new skills with your partner. Exercises are created to meet a variety of learning and relational styles.
LaShelle Lowe-Chardé is passionate about helping people express their deepest values in their relationships and creating clarity and connection with self and others.
She began her professional career with a master’s degree in school psychology. In addition to nine years in public schools, she spent several years facilitating group healing work for adolescent youth labeled “at-risk”. During that same time she led leadership and teamwork trainings for businesses and organizations around Portland, Oregon.
Along the way she found Compassionate/Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and began training with Marshall Rosenberg and other internationally known NVC trainers. She immediately knew that Compassionate Communication was the missing piece. It offers a deep and broad yet simple understanding of human nature along with a concrete set of tools to help us act and live from a place of clarity and compassion. For LaShelle, Compassionate Communication is the hands and feet of spirituality. In 2006, she was certified as a NVC trainer.
In addition to certification in Nonviolent Communication, she has completed a three year training in Hakomi - Body Centered Therapy and introductory trainings in Emotionally Focused Therapy and with the Gottman Institute.
In 2004, she founded her business, Wise Heart (www.wiseheartpdx.org). Since that time she has served as a trainer, private coach, and mentor for the learning and practice of Compassionate Communication and mindfulness. LaShelle teaches locally as well as through video conferencing online. She has offerings for couples, women, and the general public in addition to trainings for local nonprofit organizations. Her offerings focus on combining NVC with mindfulness and a subtle understanding of reactivity and relationship skills.