You take a moment to check in with yourself and you are met with a chorus of conflicting voices. How do you navigate this inner landscape and find your way to a sense of peace and clarity? In this series you will learn a concrete framework and set of skills to meet your experience in a way that opens the door to compassion and wise discernment.
Internal conflict and external stressors leave you feeling depleted and confused. You need a new way through. You have likely given a lot to others and are ready to give some gifts to yourself. It's difficult to know what you really need and how you thrive, especially when social conditioning exhorts you to maintain an external focus.
In facing difficult situations or even your own high standards, you can sometimes have an inner committee of thoughts and feelings pulling you different directions. Trying to make sense of it can be tiring work. You need a break from internal processing that goes in circles and self-analysis that leaves you feeling disconnected.
In this one day workshop you will learn to make sense of your internal world with a simple and direct framework that also enables you to meet yourself with compassion. You will practice identifying your feelings and needs and committing to effective action. In the framework of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), this is called self-empathy.
Self-empathy is a subtle skill that teaches compassionate witnessing of your experience (mindfulness). Learning self-empathy isn't about affirmations or trying to talk yourself out of your feelings. It's about identifying disconnecting thoughts, beliefs, habits, and old stories, and finding the way to your heart's longing.
As you learn the skill of self-empathy it gets easier to translate self-critical thoughts and judgments of others into feelings and needs and the actions to meet needs. Over time, you find that you don't take things so personally and that you have more confidence in meeting difficult situations.
Join us for this one day workshop and learn and practice coming into compassionate relationship with yourself. Need more information before you sign up? Keep scrolling down for workshop content.
LaShelle Lowe-Chardé is passionate about helping people express their deepest values in their relationships and creating clarity and connection with self and others.
She began her professional career with a master’s degree in school psychology. In addition to nine years in public schools, she spent several years facilitating group healing work for adolescent youth labeled “at-risk”. During that same time she led leadership and teamwork trainings for businesses and organizations around Portland, Oregon.
Along the way she found Compassionate/Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and began training with Marshall Rosenberg and other internationally known NVC trainers. She immediately knew that Compassionate Communication was the missing piece. It offers a deep and broad yet simple understanding of human nature along with a concrete set of tools to help us act and live from a place of clarity and compassion. For LaShelle, Compassionate Communication is the hands and feet of spirituality. In 2006, she was certified as a NVC trainer.
In addition to certification in Nonviolent Communication, she has completed a three year training in Hakomi - Body Centered Therapy and introductory trainings in Emotionally Focused Therapy and with the Gottman Institute.
In 2004, she founded her business, Wise Heart (www.wiseheartpdx.org). Since that time she has served as a trainer, private coach, and mentor for the learning and practice of Compassionate Communication and mindfulness. LaShelle teaches locally as well as through video conferencing online. She has offerings for couples, women, and the general public in addition to trainings for local nonprofit organizations. Her offerings focus on combining NVC with mindfulness and a subtle understanding of reactivity and relationship skills.