"It's so, so powerful for me to do [Compassionate Noticing]. I'm usually on such alert mode, and with this I relax in a way that's almost impossible for me to do on my own. I have such a feeling of wellness afterwards, like a glow. This feels amazing, it works! Thank you SO much, this is so healing for me." -- Christina C., Portland, OR
Compassionate Noticing Mindfulness Practice (CN) is essentially an "NVC observation practice" that offers a pathway to becoming fully at home and consistently available to ourselves, other people, and All of Life from moment to moment … regardless of the circumstances.
When we Witness our experience while simultaneously allowing ourselves to HAVE our experience, just as it is — without adding any meaning or interpretation, and without any agenda or intent to change anything during our practice — we significantly expand our capacity for presence and choice, especially in those moments when we typically fall into automatic, unconscious, avoidant, or other disconnected ways of being that don’t reflect who we really are or the values that we are committed to embodying.
While this practice is focused on being with our experience just-as-it-is, paradoxically, Compassionate Noticing Mindfulness Practice often diminishes and even dissolves our most challenging pain (both physical and emotional).
We also find that Compassionate Noticing Mindfulness Practice:
- Deepens our everyday self-awareness, self-understanding, and self-compassion
- Builds our experience of shared humanity, acceptance, belonging, and being okay just as we are (earned secure attachment)
- Expands our capacity for presence, calm, and peace, regardless of circumstances (earned secure attachment)
- Dramatically increases our capacity to manage upsets in ways that embody and enact our values
- Helps dissolve enmeshment and codependence, and build healthy boundaries by giving us a space where we are supported to hear what others are experiencing without “needing” to do anything about it* (In fact, we’re specifically asked NOT to “do anything” about it. As a recovering helpaholic, this was an life-changing experience, revelation, and liberation for me, personally.)
- Diminishes our tendency to automatically blame either others or ourselves for what arises in us
- Remarkably enhances our ability to Be With others just as they are, without feeling compelled to try to fix or change them
- Creates a comfortable, easy pathway to greater presence, authenticity, connection, and genuine intimacy
- Turns our insula back on, which allows us to feel our bodies and our emotions again — which reawakens our empathic capacity and our felt sense of connection to ourselves and others. (The insula is the brain structure that protects us by turning off our ability to feel our body sensations/emotions that we don’t have the capacity to process, or that we’re shamed for having.)
- Helps us tell the difference between our actual felt experience and the meaning we add to that (the stories we tell ourselves; our interpretations, opinions, evaluations, judgments; etc.)
- When used to express to others what we’re experiencing, CN acknowledges that the other person might be having a different experience, and allows room for everyone’s unique experience. This creates a deeply respectful, effortless pathway to experiencing greater authenticity, connection, and intimacy with others
* Provides a potent space to practice simply “letting” others have their own experience, without “having” to fix, comfort, or rescue
Compassionate Noticing was originally developed by Eric Sucher of Portland, OR.
For complete details or to join us, please visit www.thrivinglifenvc.org/compassionate-noticing
* If you've ALREADY joined us for Compassionate Noticing in the past, please feel welcome to join us at 7:30pm.